How 20 Easy Ways Can Safeguard Single Moms From Predators

Young, Tired Single moms are easy prey to Predators. Here in this post we will discuss How 20 Easy Ways Can Safeguard Single Moms From Predators.

The Story

About four months ago, I met a guy online, started talking to him regularly. I am a Dietitian, and due to COVID19 was working from home. 

I stay with my Mom and my 7-month-old daughter here in Bangalore. Talking to this guy I met online was fun and rejuvenating at the beginning. Just before my daughter’s birth, I had a divorce with my husband on the grounds of domestic violence.

Initially, everything was fine with this guy.

He was understanding and supportive.

But then gradually, I had a gut feeling that he was a little weird.

Having a divorce some time back had made me skeptical about all the people I meet.

I thought, because of my past, I have trusting issues.

I ignored my inner feelings for some time. But my instincts kept on telling me something is not right about this man. Finally, I trusted my instincts and broke up with him.

Later, I came to know that he was a child predator.

One of his relatives had charged him for molesting their child.

After serving the term, he was released.

20 Easy Ways To Safeguard Single Moms From Predators

It is sad, but very often predators gain the trust of single moms. They engage these young and tired mommies in romantic relations and then make their life more difficult.

So, let us jot down things Single Moms should keep in mind, before committing in a relationship this way they will be safeguarded, from predators.

1. Never rush to go on a date from one person to another. Always give some time and know more about the man before you meet him in person. But a potential threat will continuously try to convince single young mommy to change their mind.

2. Always meet the person in public places like Restaurants and Cinema halls, etc. Meeting in public places is safe, and it will give you enough time to judge if the person is suitable for you or not.

3. Always pay your bills. You are dating someone doesn’t mean he has to bear your expenses. When someone is paying for you, it’s natural you feel obliged and agree to do something you are not willing to do otherwise.

4. Do not take or give expensive gifts. By giving expensive gifts, the person can force you to do things you don’t want to do otherwise.

5. Talk and try to know more about the person you are considering to date. If the person tells you the same kind of things about him, that means he is trustworthy. If you find loopholes in his talks and stories, then probably it is a made-up fancy tale to fascinate you.

6. Do not get attracted by looks or talks. It is obvious to get tempted by a tall dark and handsome man coming right from Mills and Boons Novels, talking nicely to flatter you. But it is wise and advisable not to let your heart overcome your rational thinking process.

7. Always let your parents and friends know When, where, and whom you are going to meet and by what time you will be back. Always inform them in case you change the venue of the meeting at the eleventh hour. Ask them to call and check on you during your dating hours. Do not forget to inform them if you are late.

8. Discuss the guy you are dating with your family and friends. Do not hide anything from them. No matter how judgemental, you feel your family and friends are. They may assume the threat before you do and may warn you. So, trust your family and friends, who have loved you unconditionally for years.

9. Stay observant. Do not overlook any detail about him.

10. Whenever you open a savings account in a bank, you are supposed to get your KYC (Know Your Customer) done. Similarly, make it a rule whenever you are dating someone, you should have some basic information about that guy like his full name, where he lives, his office designation, his marital status, his office address, etc. The more data you have about the guy, the easier it is for you to analyze his behavior and trust him.

11. Make sure the battery of your phone is fully charged.

12. Put an alarm on your mobile for the probable goodbye time. Sometimes we are so engrossed in talking to the people we meet and find interesting that we forget how fast time’s gone. An alarm will remind you to hurry up and finish the meeting on time.

13. Always keep do not Panic or Emergency Apps downloaded and activated on your mobile. When you are alone with him, never feel hesitant in using these apps if you find something isn’t right.

14. Never put the pictures of your child on your dating profile. Firstly, it is not safe and secondly, what is the use of putting your child’s pic for people to see. This irresponsible behavior can land you and your child in unwanted threats and problems.

15. Never share your revealing pictures with him. This can have adverse outcomes.

16. Never introduce your boyfriend to your child at the initial stage of your relationship. Even if you do, ensure you don’t leave your child alone with that person. Smaller kids who cannot speak properly will never be able to tell the harm done to them. They will remain a silent victim.

17. Never stick to a guy who is more pushing, dominating, and controlling in nature. It is futile to waste your time on someone who is not giving importance to your viewpoints and is not ready to give you the time you need to get comfortable in your relationship. A genuine guy will understand your concerns and will be less pushing, but a creepy person who is not looking for a long-term relationship will push for things you don’t want to do.

18. When you are not completely sure about a person, it is always advisable to avoid getting physical with him. A disgusting person can force you into sex, can make you pregnant, and quite possibly you people may end up fighting for the custody of the child. This is physically, mentally, and financially draining for a single Mom.

19. Get into Live in the relationship, only after dating the guy at least for a year. Allowing this amount of time will let you know the person better.

20. Vibes speak louder than words and actions. After meeting someone you still feel unsure about him and do not get good vibes from him or feel uncomfortable with him. Then it’s better to break up early to keep you and your family safe from any permanent damage.

A woman’s and a mother’s intuitions are never wrong, trust that first hand.

It will save you from many unwanted situations in life.

This post is not to scare you, single moms, from starting a new relationship.

But through this post, we want to make you vigilant and aware of the creepy people around you so that you can maintain a safe distance from them.

There is no dearth of good and genuine people in this world.

Do not jump from one bad relationship to another.

Give yourself some time to understand what you want.

Do not compromise or ignore anything unusual.

Love yourself first, then only you can find a person who can love you and understand your worth.

Be with people who treat you with Love and Respect.

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